This was originally a blog post I made awhile ago. I write about this stuff because it helps me formulate my thoughts and really helps me internalize concepts such as this. I'm posting it here in the hopes it will help others better understand what disqualification is.
Its not perfect. Others here will have a better handle on what disqualification is far better than myself. ENJOY!
INTRODUCTION
I want to take this opportunity to talk a little about the concept of disqualification and "being yourself". Once you learn, understand and internalize it, you will have little need for pickup tricks.
The reason I hate routines, magic, NLP, etc, is because it comes from an approval seeking mindset. The guys who created these things believe or believed at the time that women need to be impressed in order to win their interest. Well, the reality of the situation is that men have been procreating since... well, forever. We're all proof of that simple fact. You simply don't need those things.
You actually need to 'unimpress' women. Women do not want guys who try to impress them. Why is it women you are not attracted to fall in love with you? Its because you are 'yourself' around them. You present yourself in an honest way. Your strengths as well as your weaknesses. And when you present your weaknesses to them, you are unashamed of them. You do it in a confident way.
You know the conventional wisdom "I want a guy who is just himself" and "just be yourself"? I believe its actually the best pickup advice out there. What these women are really saying is that they want a guy who does not try hard to impress them. A guy who is comfortable with himself and unashamed of his weaknesses. A guy who doesn't use DHV stories with DHV spikes, magic tricks and other such gimmicks (junk!).
EXAMPLES
Lets start with some examples first.
Her: I like your coat.
Me: (the right way) Thanks! Actually, I mugged a homeless guy outside for it. *smile*
Me: (the wrong way) Yeah its designer. Cost me $600.
Her: I'm a vegetarian.
Me: (the right way) Awesome! I eat vegetarian cows! *smile*
Me: (the wrong way) Cool! I love vegetarians. (when you really don't give a shit)
Her: I only date tall guys.
Me: (the right way) Cool. I'm so short I could be an umpa loompa. (said in a confident tone with confident body language)
Me: (the wrong way) Whats wrong with guys who are 5'8"? I'm still pretty tall.
Her: How big is your penis?
Me: (the right way) My penis is an inch and a half long, I'm a virgin and I only last not even five minutes in bed. You want nothing to do with me hun. Run! *smile*
Me: (the wrong way) It's 10 inches long, five feet thick and too much for you to handle bitch!
THE THEORY
Disqualification is when you tell a women you are the opposite of what she says or thinks she wants. Or, as a way to demonstrate that you do not want her putting you on a pedestal and thus do not require her approval. Disqualification is NOT putting yourself down. When you disqualify yourself in a needy, approval seeking way, then yes it is putting yourself down. The way I want you to do it is in a confident, strong way, with confident strong vocal tonality and body language.
People tend to believe the opposite of what you say about yourself. If you say to a women "I'm the most interesting person you'll ever meet" she will believe the opposite. Only low value people have the need to seek others approval by saying stuff like that. Now, if you say "I have a friend who's like over 1000 pounds, stays in the house 24/7 eating chocolate and playing dungeons and dragons. That guy is wayyyy more interesting than I am." (said confidently) She will believe you are the most interesting guy shes ever met.
Say "I just bought a Honda Civic." like you would say "I just bought a BMW Z4."
You can disqualify in a few different ways:
1. Disqualifying compliments to show you are a humble guy who doesn't need her approval.
Her: You're such an amazing guitar player!
You: Thanks. I still have my sticking points though. I'm horrible at hammer ons and I'm still working on a few other things.
2. Disqualifying yourself from her screens.
Her: I only date guys who drive beemers.
You: Cool. I drive a Civic. Run!
3. Disqualifying yourself from things she approves of.
Her: I love Jeeps!
You: Cool. I'm not much of a Jeep person myself. Hate the things actually. I love convertibles though. Anything without a roof is sexy in my opinion.
That about sums up the majority of ways in which you can disqualify. It is VERY important to note that there is no need to come across as a jerk or an ass while you disqualify. Just say it like you would say it to your mother or your best friend.
CONCLUSION
Actively practicing this will rid you of any and all approval seeking behaviors. Its the ultimate technique for inner game. You will actually become more confident once you have used this for a short time. The reason for this is because you become unafraid of revealing your weaknesses in a confident way. When you stop DHVing, that becomes a DHV in and of itself.
Kudos,
Roulette
I agree 100% with Roulette here. Disqualification has work wonders for me. In a recent conversation with a girl, I was discussing with her about socializing. I somehow brought up that I was not a Lady's Man. Rather than running off and deciding to talk to another man, she did the opposite. This girl actually tried to reassure me that I was smooth and confident. I again DQed, but I stopped after the second one because I do believe that if she tries to push a positive persona on you so vigorously, you should just go with it.
Disqualification also shows that you are not perfect. Contrary to popular belief women do not want perfect men. The human race despises,yet yearns for perfection at the same time. We want to be perfect, but we can't stand to see someone else be perfect. The whole meaning of being human is being flawed. This is why it is more exciting to do something wrong than right. Think about it, what makes stories and movies interesting are imperfections or mistakes.
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